Another New Year



Every new year I see people excited, making plans for the new year’s eve and goals for next year. I was a similar happy camper until my parents passed away. Now, on the last day of the year, first thought that comes to my mind is “Another year they will not be able to see”. In the next thought, I am reminded of my own mortality. The new year is part of my life and my initial thought only applies until I live. It feels a little scary to question ourselves – “Is this going to be the last year of my life?” Then a moment of courage immerges saying “If it is, I want to die with no regrets”.

So, this year I promise myself to have 365 days of happiness. I pledge to,

  1. Be more present in the current moment of life instead of technology.
  2. Concentrate more on positive moments/experiences of life so my brain can recollect them often instead of their evil twin :-).
  3. Improve contact with family and friends.

Not a big list but an important one to remember in this fast paced world.

HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR!

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An affair with death


“The most painful goodbyes are the ones never said and never explained” – By someone.

In my 32 years of life, I have seen my two mothers (Mother and grandma) die of lung disease. I lost my father suddenly when my daughter turned 6 months old. Loosing the people who brought you up is heartwrenching. This year brings another death in our family. My uncle passed away today. He was suffering with multiple problems from past few month and was in ICU kept alive by a ventilator machine. He was a healthy person who started a third career as a manager at a relative’s office after retirement. He had been a business man all his life. Owned textile factories in his 30s and setup his own business with a famous Indian brand wholesale agency in his 50s.  After retirement he couldn’t sit at home and started working again. He had a good life living with his family (wife, son, daughter-in-law,  father). He used to go for walks every day with my aunt.

Suddenly,one day he fell sick with diabetes, jaundice, later with infection and then lung fibrosis. All these problems arose in a span of 4 weeks. It was like someone had pulled the trigger on his life.

Ever since the doctors confirmed that there was no hope left for him, I started thinking about life and death.  What is the purpose of life? Everything new born thing is fragile at start, gets stronger with age, starts withering after a while, becomes fragile again and dies. This is the circle of life for every being on Earth. A constant relationship exists between life and death from the moment we are conceived. Sometimes, external forces play a role in the start of our affair with death. But an affair it is when our time is up. We have so many to dos in our life’s list that we forget the actual purpose of life- To LIVE HAPPILY. So, why don’t we accept the fact, ignore life’s to do list and just have two to dos that is to be Happy and take care of our health.

As my husband says, life is a paradise when we are happy :-).

Today was a good day


When I saw last week’s photo challenge on daily post, it sounded interesting. But I kept thinking what constitutes a good day for me. Just a week before the photo challenge I had the opportunity to click some nice pictures of my daughter playing on patio and in our backyard. It was early evening and we all had fun hanging out together enjoying our new home. I felt good and peaceful spending time away from work, phone and capturing beautiful memories for us. So, when I saw the photo challenge “Today was a good day”, I immediately thought of this day with my family. The more I thought about it, I came up with below list of things that would make a good day for me.

  1. See my little one laugh and giggle.
  2. Relaxing with a good cup of masala or ginger chai.
  3. Making bread
  4. Spending quality time with my family.
  5. Eating tasty food.
  6. Doing something creative – photography, blogging or cooking.
  7. Seeing the forest behind feeling peaceful with birds chirping in the background.

The list might go on but the post really made me think what I want from a good day. Basically, to be happy and remember to appreciate life.

 
A Good day to you πŸ™‚

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/dp_photo_challenge/today-was-a-good-day/

Lung force walk


Today my brother and I participated in a lung force walk. We walked for our mother who died of a lung disease called Interstitial pulmonary fibrosis and for our grandma who was killed by lung cancer. Both of them didn’t smoke and were never around any smokers. Ofcourse there are other reasons for these diseases as well but we don’t know what caused them. It was a short walk of 3 miles and I wondered how can it make a difference. I thought may be it should have been a marathon or half marathon and that would have mattered. As we registered, met people in different organizer tents and finished the walk, we felt like we did something. There were many participants and my company alone had gathered 11k in fund raising. There was a radio channel covering the event  as well. That kind of money and media coverage makes a huge difference. The money can go towards research, helping current and future patients and so much more. A short event can get fund raising rolling plus its taking place nationwide. And people like me who aren’t yet ready for a marathon can contribute as well. 

Do check for a lung force walk in your area. Clean air is a luxury in some contries and a cure for lung diseases will help save many lives.

Go torquise!

  

THERE IS NO SPOON


We went to IKEA on the day after thanksgiving and brought some NOT MUCH needed stuff. One of them were spoons. After I washed them, I told my husband “Hey..these spoons are like the one in the Matrix- There is no spoon”. My husband laughed and commented “You and your devotion to Matrix”. I was super excited :). Then a theory occurred to me. Let us say, something happened and you got angry. What if at that time, you say to yourself “THERE IS NO SPOON…There is no anger”. Just this one sentence will clear your mind for a moment and your brain will start thinking about why are you angry? Is this anger worth it? Can you really benefit from this negative emotion? Basically, it will break your chain of negative thoughts. I did try this theory and it has worked well for me. By reacting to negative emotions, we are limiting our happiness. The number of times we can be happy can be ALWAYS (Unless there is real catastrophe).

I remember reading this book called ‘Hardwiring happiness’ by Rick Hanson (Will finish it someday..I am slow with non-fiction). In the start of this book, the author explains how we humans are wired to negativity. How bad experiences stick with us more than good ones. He explains it in detail about how we adopted this kind of thinking and with it hardwired our brains to negativity. No wonder we seek a guide to happiness at some point in life.

My husband always says something similar. He says “Be happy all the time and everything will fall into place”. His theory is that if you are happy, your reaction to a particular situation will also be a good one. You will not react as bad as you would if you were in a low mood.

So, next time you see yourself in a bad mood, just say out loud “THERE IS NO SPOON”.

Stay happy stay healthy πŸ˜€

Please feel free to comment. I would love to know your thoughts too.

Baby Kicking


My brother has asked me a few times – β€œhow does it feel when the baby moves?”. I always say it feels wonderful. But I know he is looking for a more detailed answer. Even my husband often wonders the same and says “That’s one thing that men cannot experience” :-).

In my 16th week of pregnancy, I tried feeling our little one’s kicks by placing hands on my tummy to see if I can sense the kicks. Surprisingly, after waiting for a few minutes, I felt a soft poke below my hand. The feeling was magical and weird as I realized for the first time that a tiny being was growing inside me. I felt like an alien in my body. I would let out a small happy laugh whenever I felt her kicks. In the later weeks, I tried having my husband feel our little one’s kicks but he never could, until I was 24+ weeks. When he finally felt the baby move, he was a mixture of surprise and happiness – a little boy who wanted to play with the tiny new person in his life.

I have lost control of my belly as the baby’s kicks are getting stronger. It’s her playground and changes in different spherical shapes as she moves. Now, I am in my last few weeks of pregnancy and it only takes her a minute or two to high five us. Well now it’s more like a punch on both sides of belly letting us know “Do not disturb. I am napping in here.” πŸ™‚

Pregnant woman blogging :)

Pregnant woman blogging πŸ™‚

 

Life’s to do list


Two years ago my brother introduced me to Raptitude.com. David (Author of the blog) has written many amazing posts on life, his experiences and experiments. But his best post for me was a list of things that he wanted to do/learn in life. Here is the link to his Life list. This got me thinking of everything that I had thought of learning over a period of time. I had forgotten about many of them and occasionally the memory would pop up when something happened. For example, when we went to San Juan Islands for Thanksgiving in 2011, I fell in love with the piano at the house we were staying and remembered our (Bro and mine) growing up motto of learning at least one musical instrument in our lifetime.

I have been thinking of publishing my own to do list from over a year now, but never got down to actually writing it. Finally, here it is.

  1. Learn to play a musical instrument
  2. Write a Novel – completed in Nov 2012.
  3. Publish a novel
  4. Write Second novel
  5. Learn self-defense
  6. Teach self-defense to girls in Indian schools
  7. Learn CPR
  8. Open a Non-Profit
  9. Sky Dive
  10. Visit Paris
  11. Visit New Zealand
  12. Learn to drive with confidence
  13. Take a photography course
  14. Volunteer and learn how to maintain a non-profit
  15. Learn to speak Kannada
  16. Learn to speak French
  17. Scuba Dive again (Loved it the last time and have been wanting to go underwater ever since :))